|Q|u|o|t|a|t|i|o|n| THE 100 SIMPLE SECRETS OF Happy Families ~ DAVID NIVEN

1.       Be a Good Friend

2.       Family Makes a New You

3.       Take Strength from Your Focus

4.       There are Second Chances

5.       Find a Community That Fits Your Family

6.       Believe in Yourself to Help Your Family

7.       Saying Nothing Says Something

8.       We Make Our Own Family Success

9.       Dedication Matters More than Occupation

10.   It’s OK to Be Right When Everyone Else Is Wrong

11.   Let Your Goals Live with You

12.   Tell Your Family Story

13.   Don’t Hide from Your Family

14.   You Define a Child Every Day

15.   Listen Without  Judgment

16.   Closeness Cannot Be Measured on a Map

17.   Live Your Views

18.   Parents Are Foundations Not Walls

19.   Make “Should” and “Want” the Same Thing

20.   Adjustments Never End

21.   Express Your Love

22.   The Bright Side Shines Through

23.   Forgiveness Depends on More Than the Apology

24.   Fatigue Is a Family  Enemy

25.   Jealousy Is Automatic

26.   Encourage Persistence Not Desperation

27.   It’s Better to Be Fair Than Right

28.   Every Number Has Challenges

29.   Think of Your Family When You Don’t Have To

30.   Don’t Let Negativity Build

31.   Recognise Pleasant Stress

32.   There’s No Price Tag on Family Life

33.   Calm Questions Get Answers

34.   Family Life Teaches Us About Relationships

35.   What You See Isn’t Always There

36.   Don’t Enter a Generational Competition

37.   Expectations  Must Fit the Person

38.   Don’t Obsess over Birth Order

39.   Show Up on Time

40.   Communication  Brings Us Closer

41.   Every Person Is in a Different Relationship

42.   Satisfaction Depends on Where You Look

43.   It’s Not a Popularity Contest

44.   Cherish Traditions

45.   Work on Your Own Terms

46.   Encourage, but Don’t Require, Activities

47.   Caregiving Is Personal

48.   You Can’t Be the Family Gatekeeper

49.   It Doesn’t Matter Who Earns the Money

50.   All Talk Is Not Equal

51.   What You Send Out Comes Back to You

52.   The Next Generation Will Define Family for Itself

53.   Share Your Struggles

54.   Beware of Clothing Disasters

55.   Competition Breeds Loss

56.   Do One Thing at a Time

57.   You Will See the Same Things Differently

58.   Strictness Can Last a Lifetime

59.   The In-Laws Are Not the Enemy

60.   Share the Housework

61.   Write Down Your Thoughts

62.   Pets Are Family Too

63.   Take Comfort from Routines

64.   Tempers Must Be Controlled

65.   Illness Can Have Multiple Victims

66.   Not Every Piece Will Fit

67.   Use Food Positively

68.   Self-Doubt Magnifies Family Problems

69.   Children Need More Than Parents

70.   Rigidity Isolates

71.   The More You Give, the More You Will Believe in Yourself

72.   Don’t Stay Together at All Costs

73.   Too Much Protection Is a Threat

74.   Experience Helps but Shouldn’t  Dictate

75.   Low Expectations Are Not a Family Solution

76.   Emotions Last Longer Than Events

77.   Even the Dependent Need Some Independence

78.   Another View Is a Strength, Not a Weakness

79.   Distress Is Contagious

80.   Family Affects All Aspects of Our Lives

81.   Generations to Come Make Us Feel Young Again

82.   Everybody Must Contribute to the Work of Family Life

83.   Be Real

84.   The Young and Old Want the Same Thing

85.   It Will Be a Family of the World

86.   The Most Important Inheritance Is Love

87.   Disagree with Each Other, Not Against Each Other

88.   Don’t  Do Everything Together

89.   Beware of Television Extremes

90.   See the Big Picture

91.   Give Yourself—Nothing Else Really Matters

92.   It’s Somewhere Between Easy and Impossible

93.   Everything Is Relative

94.   Make What’s Real into What’s Ideal

95.   It’s Always a Choice

96.   Everyone Is Equal but Different

97.   Continue

98.   We Seek Warmth

99.   Can You Do It? Ask Yourself

100.                        You Make Your Family

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R e f e r e n c e :

DAVID NIVEN, Ph.D;  

'THE 100 SIMPLE SECRETS OF Happy Families --

What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It’, Capstone Publishing Ltd, 2006:

   P h o t o : National Geographic

Handwriting Analysis: The Assessment of Graphology ~ E. A. Rundquist

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This previously secret handwriting analysis document was produced for the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) before being approved for release into the public domain through the CIA historical review program.

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Two threads of argument run through the foregoing article on handwriting analysis. The first asserts the great need for research studies because "a proper test run has never been devised and carried out, at least not in the United States, to determine whether any graphologist can consistently deliver accurate results in the area of character delineation." The second asserts the value of graphology here and now as an assessment technique, making sweeping claims of what it can do. The arguments are essentially incompatible. If the claims are correct, the research is unnecessary; if there is no research evidence, the claims are unsupported. With the need for research to establish the value of graphology as an assessment technique I am in full agreement. I disagree with the claims for its current effectiveness.

The article makes a number of cogent points. It distinguishes between the well-established branch of graphology devoted to problems of personal identification and the branch devoted to character analysis; it stresses the need for research studies; it recognizes many of the pitfalls that need be avoided in carrying out such studies; it acknowledges that traditional psychological assessment is preferable to handwriting analysis when direct access to the individual is possible. With these points I am in general agreement. A little elaboration of all but the first, which is too well established to require comment, may be helpful.

Scope of Research

In evaluating graphology - or any other assessment technique - not just one, but many studies are required. Studies of agreement among graphologists, the development of objective techniques for measuring characteristics of handwriting, refinements in the methods used, hypotheses such as "small handwriting with closed and knotted o's and a's indicates secretiveness" - all these are useful and interesting, but they do not answer the main question: How well does it in fact predict behavior? Or in the terms psychologists like to use: What is its validity? Studies should therefore be concentrated in this area, a point I stress not in disagreement with Mr. Laycock, but because of its importance.

Validation studies in the area of personality assessment are not easy to do. There are many complicating factors - getting a representative sample of persons to participate, getting the same kind of information about each, getting information in sufficiently specific terms on the behavior one is trying to predict. This last problem is recognized by Mr. Laycock as a semantic one. "What is a brave man?" he asks. If there is no agreement on what a brave man is, there is obviously no means of checking on anyone's assertion that a person is brave.

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